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Primary Love Language

Primary Love Language

FIND YOUR CHILDS PRIMARY LOVE LANGUAGE

Last week I attended a very interesting workshop in Princess Z’s school.The workshop was called ‘Find your child’s primary love language’ which was all about helping us (parents) to find out our child’s primary language for more love,confidence,safety,and success.

Two professional and experienced speakers
Dr.Monica MendesClinical Psychologist and Cindy can de MeeksPersonal and Professional Coach from The Valiant clinic were presented to speak in detail about this topic.Before I talk about it in more details let me tell you a bit more about The Valiant Clinic.

Spanning across 15,000 sqm and located at City Walk.Valiant Clinic is part of a vibrant residential and retail destination.It is managed and operated by the Houston methodist global health care services.It is an outpatient center for health checkup in the region with having a preventive and proactive approach to wellness and health management.They provide diagnostic services across a range of medical specialities supported by cutting edge technology and innovation that guarantee a superior patient experience.

Moving on, you all must have heard about Gary Chapman the author behind the famous book series The 5 love languages.Today I will be talking about those 5 primary love languages I learnt myself during the workshop

Like Mr.Chapman says. Attitude. Behavior. Development. Everything depends on the love relationship between you and your child. When children feel loved, they do their best.

Each child, expresses and receives love through one of the five different communication styles .Your love language may be totally different from that of your child. While you are doing all you can to show your child love, he may be hearing it as something completely opposite.

It is  highly important to uncover your child’s love language in order for you to fill up his/her love tank by feeling loved by you.

The Five Love Languages of Children, Dr.Rose Campbell and Gary Campbell discovered was that children understand love in five basic ways: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. If you have several children, chances are they each understand love in a different way.

Often parents think that the ideal is to treat each child in the same way. However, a hug means more to some children than to others. So, for example if each child gets a hug, some actually receive more than others. Discovering the primary love language of each child is the key to effectively communicating love.Every child has a special way of receiving love.Take a look below at the 5 primary love languages: 👇🏻.

5 Primary love language
1.Receiving Gifts
2.Physical Touch
3.Acts Of Service
4.Quality Time
5. Words of Affirmation- This was my result

One of these five is the primary love language of your child. If you don’t speak that language, your child will not feel loved. Loving children effectively requires parents to express love in a language that the child understands.The ideal is that children learn to receive and give love in all five languages. This prepares them for good relationships as adults. Your example is the most effective method of teaching. Love your children effectively and they will learn to love others.

Follow the link below and take the 5 Love Languages official assessment to discover YOUR love language and begin improving your relationships.

Discover your love language here

*Your love language profile will explain your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect to others…..

Also,do let me know in the comments below about your love language 👇🏻

10 Common Words

10 Common Words

10 COMMON WORDS TO SAY TO KIDS EVERYDAY 

Use these 10 words of encouragement and affirmations to inspire your kids throughout the day.Making them feel confident and as well as help them take on new challenges in life.

I LOVE YOU ❤️- During bedtime or during the day this is something that need to be said several times of the day,everyday.When the kids know they are loved, they know they have someone to trust and protect them. In short ‘LOVE IS ALL THEY NEED’ 😊.

YOUR THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED – We (moms) know that giving birth 🤰is the best feeling and the best thing that every happened to us,why not let our kids know that as well.

IM PROUD OF YOU – One of the best ways to let our kids know we are proud of them more often is to intentionally see them doing something good. For example finding their improvement in anything they do ,play sports, practice an instrument etc.It would be great if we showed them pride on a regular basis.

YOUR SO GOOD! – Did an activity on their own and the right way.Praising them on their achievements increases their motivation.

YOU CAN ASK FOR HELP? – Asking for help comes naturally. They need help with everything.But as they grow up, it can become warped.Children need to learn to voice their needs at home.Those kids are more likely to stand up for themselves in other situations and are also less likely to be taken advantage of.They need to understand that they can always seek support and comfort for their frustration,helping them learn how to self-regulate their emotions and stay calmer.

WE ARE HAVING SO MUCH FUN? RIGHT? – If you find a way to make the most of every moment that you have with your kids, you will not only be a wonderful parent, but you will also be teaching your kids how to be good adults and wonderful parents themselves someday.Show your children how important your time with them is,making them remember the fun times they spend with you.

IM LISTENING 👂🏻 – No matter how busy we are throughout the day listening to our kids is the most important thing of all. If you want them to listen to you, you’ll need to first listen to them.Listen to your children when they want to talk, have strong feelings or have a problem.Listening is a skill that will help any parent communicate better with his or her child.

NEVER BE AFRAIDIM HERE  – Caressing them and telling them that there is nothing to be afraid of will leave a huge impact on them (letting them know that mom/dad are always there to protect them (even in their dreams).

YOUR SO HELPFUL – We wouldn’t mind a few helping hands..would we? 😵I know chores for kids is less cleaning and more messing around 🙈 but appreciating,even their little help can make a difference in their lives.No matter if it’s not done properly we can always make it right and make them learn later.

WHAT A GREAT JOB YOU HAVE DONE 👍🏻- Whether it’s just finishing a puzzle or a coloring page. Kids love being appreciated.The smile and the proudness they will have on their face after these words will surely be capturing. 🙂

The Cats

The Cats

THE CATS IN PRINCESS Z’S LIFE  🐱

Cats have always been a part of Princess Z’s life.Being fond of cats since her toddlerhood.She loves everything related to them.Whether its cat cushions,plush toys,hair clips etc.We never had one nor planned of having any as mom aka Princess Z’s grandma (Nani) was afraid of them and didn’t want the ‘scratching the furniture’ thing🙈in the house.During our shifting process Princess Z tried her best to convince Nani to get her a kitten on her birthday (as she knew our house is getting bigger and we have space for them)but it didn’t work out 😞.The day we shifted to our new home just before her birthday Princess Z was lucky enough to make some new cats friends in the neighborhood.Nani was happy as well as we didn’t needed to get one now)😉.

Here’s what she named them:
Softy-Loves moaning outside our door,a solid eater,the first one to get attached and is the oldest and the closest of them all.’Her best friend’,that’s what Princess Z likes to call her 😊).

Whitey- A little reserved,plays a little,likes to roam around our house,loves food

Silly Cat-A kitten actually who loves to play in our garden with her mouse toy and bubbles

Babu-Never comes in but loves to be fed.

Softy 2- Pays us a visit,once in a blue moon

and many more but they have not been named yet)
😂😂

It was a scary thought at first.(tendency to bite or claw.) but as time passed by they created a special bond.It’s was not just Princess Z that started to have the love and affection in her eyes, but the cats seem to have the same adoration.In no time the cats and kitten became attached to Princess Z.Taking time out to feed,play,pet and caress them has became a part of her daily life.Nothing makes her more happy then seeing those cats waiting for her outside at the doorstep when she comes back from school.Not only this weekends,specially Friday is a ‘Cat’ day for us,spending hours playing with them in our garden.

Princess Z Watching Softy Eat
Playing With Bubbles With Ms.Silly Cat 🐱

Playing with cats is all about treating them well.During the night time when Princess Z is lying by my side I tend to teach her all about the do’s and don’ts of Cats.When talking I try to make her understand the teaching on how to play with them,by staying calm and quiet while playing: no yelling, screaming, running, or jumping.Telling her the facts about them.Its important to help her understand that the cat is not a toy and she’s a living companion who has just as many feelings as us.

Ear Ache in Children

Ear Ache in Children

Ear Ache in Children

Lately Princess Z has been going through an ear infection (or earache) after she had a cold raging for more than two or three days.Due to the ear ache Princess Z has been having a yellowish discharge coming out from her ear plus suffering a bit of hearing loss.(She cant hear me from a distance). After talking to my pediatrician about it,She has been put on an antibiotic course for a week.Hopefully,it will vanish within time.According to a research, It’s common in children from the age of 3 and it occurs when a virus or bacteria causes the area behind the eardrum to become inflamed.Most middle ear infections occur during the winter and early spring. Often, middle ear infections go away without any medication. However, if pain persists or if your child has fever, you should seek medical treatment.After experiencing it myself for the first time i thought of sharing a few ways to spot an earache

Sighs to spot an ear infection (earache)-

1.Ear pain (mild to severe). Babies often pull or tug at their ears.

2.Fever.

3.Drainage from the ear that is thick and yellow or bloody. (This is what Princess Z has been going through)

4.Loss of appetite, vomiting, and grumpy behavior.

5.Trouble sleeping (crying or not wanting to sleep)

There might not be any home cure for this but there are a few things that can ease the pain along the way:

1.Use Ear drops

2.Rest

3.Apply warm cloths on the ear

4.Use Pain Relievers (such as Advil)

5.Use Oil Drops (putting a few warmed drops of olive oil in the ear is safe and could be moderately effective)

Many ear infections clear up on their own in about a week or two, with symptoms starting to get better after a few days. Be sure to check with your child’s pediatrician if your child has an ear pain, (under 2 years of age (and definitely if the earache is accompanied by a fever).

Listed below are a few ways to lower your child’s risk of getting an ear infection:

1.Wash your hands and your child’s hands frequently.

2.Keep unclean items out of your toddler or baby’s mouth.

3.Avoid smoky environments

The Doctor should be visited immediately if any sigh of earache is spotted to stay away from further complications.

I hope this helps!

8 things learned I in Motherhood

8 things learned I in Motherhood

8 THINGS I LEARNED IN MOTHERHOOD 

Every #woman goes through different challenges and experiences as a #mother,learning a whole lot of things on the way.Here are the 8 things I learned In motherhood

It’s very important to have a time schedule -I think this is one of the most difficult aspects of motherhood.With a set schedule I mean Waking up on time,serving breakfast,lunch,snack and dinner on time etc.We have to take care of it as a mother.Having one isn’t difficult but sticking to it is(especially on weekends/holidays).People think it’s easier with the little ones (new born/toddlers) but I have had a lot of difficulties in setting a timetable when Princess Z was little (being all hyperactive)but now as she’s growing up things are working out. ☺️

Handling work with one hand-All the moms will agree with this one.During our young age we were use to working with both hands no matter what type of work it was but after being a mother we realized than carrying a toddler in one hand and using the other for work wasn’t difficult at all and we got use to it with a snap. #cheers to the motherhood power 👊🏻

Becoming more organized Well yes! Organization is another important element .Putting everything where it belongs after playtime,keeping things away from reach or cleaning kids closet is another daily routine.I know how difficult it is to find toys/items when they get lost no matter how organized things are,there is always something or the other lying around 😩and to tell you the truth Im still trying to keep up with it and need to get a little more organized.

Became a good listener Definetely! when kids just wanna talk and talk and talk there is nothing we can do but just listen.

Home remedies work better than medicine-This is what all granny say and I totally agree.I  am not fond of medicines myself so don’t recommend it as well unless it’s something severe.I have tried a lot of home remedies on Princess Z when she was sick 😷 Whether it’s for cold and flu,fever,constipation etc.they have all worked out.Super simple with no side effects!!

A better researcher – I agree.Since I became a mother i rely on the internet more than I did before.Whether it’s researching about schools,reading about medicines,remedies,or reviewing products ,or groceries and ordering them online.We do it all the time.

Became a better cook Once upon a time I wanted to be a chef (even though I didn’t like cooking 🙈) but now I can say I am a chef who cooks food for one special guest everyday. Trying out different recipes and serving dishes according to their needs.They can sometimes be choosy but we have to deal with it.( that’s what kids do) but I can surely say I have improved my cooking skills within time ☺️.

Socializing is important-During my early 20s when I was studying I was one of those who people who was quite and shy all the time.Who liked spending time alone…(most of the time in the library when other groups use to hang out in the cafeteria)but now as a mother I realized that socializing and interacting is very much important as kids do what they see.Me not talking or interacting with others was affecting Princess Z and I didn’t wanted that,so after realizing this I have started to socialize more,making mommy friends,attending events etc.

I might still need to work on a few of them but These are a few things I learned and got to know the importance off after entering motherhood.👧🏻👩🏻.